The uncomfortable conversations that revolve around sex & relationships...
My entire life is a novel on intimacy, sex & relationships. The good, bad, ugly, the taboo, kinky, the trauma and healing, the learning and unlearning. Whether the stories are a part of my own journey or are conversations happen in private, in dorm rooms at midnight, at skateboard competitions, volleyball tournaments, camping trips, in my office, blowing up my phone, the list goes on. Growing up in a conservative home that did not equip me in the slightest for the world (sex included) made it a trial and error type of life for me; one that I embrace and share with others so they can glean the tools that I have collected along the way. I was always a 'Tom Boy', most of my friends were male, I struggled to connect with women, finding them a mystery! I am a longboarding, 4x4'ing, horseback riding, volleyball playing, motorcycle driving, hot rod loving, tattoo covered woman. I am the only female at all the stags, standing on the grooms side in weddings, and I am the female that the guys felt safe talking to about their emotions, insecurities and questions regarding emotions, intimacy, relationships and sex!
As I have gone through my life journey, I have embraced my femininity, gotten a therapy degree, and come full circle to realizing that men are still the ones that feel the most comfortable with me in a coach/mentorship/therapy setting. This has become a complete blessing for which I am so grateful. Seriously! To continuously be chosen as 'one of the guys', brought into the inner circle and trusted with information is something that humbles me, I don't take it lightly.
All of my clients (and my male friend over the years) have honoured me with their vulnerability, courage, and honesty; because of this I am able to help others who feel like they are alone.
This blog is going to be addressing the conversations that most of us don't want to have with our partner's, our friends, and even our therapists! Talking about self confidence, about sexual desires, fantasies, feeling inadequate, not understanding where the disconnect came from between your lover and you; questions about how to make her squirt, how to talk to her about opening up your marriage sexually, talking about anal, about what role porn plays in your life. Communicating hard emotions in a safe way. Some of the stories are going to be eye opening to you, some are going to hit home, and others are going to help guide you on your own journey or to help someone else on theirs.
From men with inverted penis's to men with fifteen inch cocks who can't find a sexual connection but craving touch so bad it hurts. Married men who want to feel desired, but have wives who don't 'see' them. Trying to figure out dating apps, how to maneuver being a masculine guy in a highly sensitive consent based world, and single dads who don't have time to date. Fantasies about gang banging, about sucking dick, about public places...fantasies about bubble baths and rubbing each other's feet, or how about the guy who is the hockey dad, but on the inside he really just wants to dress up like a sexy maid and clean your house. The lists, the lessons, and the capacity for love are endless
There is much for us to learn when it comes to intimacy, sex, & relationships and I am here to share my journey and the stories of those I walk with each day; because if there is one... there is many. You are never alone.
I can promise you that following this blog will take you on a wild ride. Please follow along, share with someone, and reach out if you would like to book a call with me!
*Although most stories are heterosexual partnerships, sexual situations that include the pronouns 'she/her' & 'he/him'; I am highly supportive, involved and a member of the LGBT2Q+ Community myself.*
** All stories are completely anonymous unless I am speaking about myself. Confidentiality is held at the utmost importance. Names & places have all been changed. **
Questions or need support?
Reach me discreetly at 604.337.7125 #SeeTheLightBeTheLight #UNLEASHEDIntimacy #Discrete #IntimacyCoach #SexCoach #RelationshipCoach #SexTalks #ComfortableInTheUncomfortable #HealthyRelationship #OpenMinded #SexTherapy #ConsensualNonMonogamy #Monogamy #SexPositivity #SustainableRelationship #SustainableLove #EthicalSlut #OpenRelationship #Fantasy #SexualGuide #Kink #CoupleGoals #IntentionalRelationship #HealthyCommunication
Great article!