A lot of guys say they are gifted with the ability to make women cum, either orally or penetration; and a lot of women are disappointed when they find out that the words were hollow.
Let down like a ‘7th grade pothead’ as someone dear to me always says.
Here is the thing though, there are two reasons behind men lacking in this department and one of them actually doesn’t have to do with you.
First off, guys...
Even if you think you are good, check in with the woman who owns the pussy you are munching on (or want to munch on!).
Checking in can look like a bunch of different things; and if you are humble enough for feedback and want to actually make her cum instead of faking it (yes, it happens guys, more often than I would like to admit).
Listen to her sounds, is she moaning, if she is, please don’t stop doing what you are doing.
Ask her if it feels good, you can do it in a sexy way “Do, you like that baby, or can I make you feel good doing something different’
Watch her body language.
Ask for direction and be ready to take it (giving direction and asking for what she wants is actually a huge accomplishment for most women).
Are you paying attention to her entire region, affirming that you love her taste, look and feel? Doing all of this is building her confidence.
Secondly,
Women are in their heads too much to allow full vulnerability and embracing of all the sensations that are happening when someone else’s head is down there!
We carry around responsibilities, check lists, insecurities and shame. All of those make for a busy brain, and for some reason when your mouth goes down on us, they decide it is the perfect time to start a conference meeting that is mandatory for them all to be at.
How can you help us get out of that and back into the present moment?
How can you help create a sexy pussy tasting experience?
By engaging with us.
Talk to her about what you like about her pussy, about how you love her taste and her feel. Show her and tell her how much it is turning you on. Work your fingers and hand around her whole region. The clit isn’t just in the one spot on her hood, it actually almost looks like a wishbone and runs along both sides of her vulva (what everyone knows as ‘vagina’). When you stimulate the whole thing, plus tease her opening, and are talking to her in affirming and sexy ways it is hard for her mind to go elsewhere.
Don’t be afraid to use toys! Ask her how she cums best, internally, externally, or both! Ask if she has toys she wants to use, teach you to use etc. Or ask her if she wants to go shopping with you and get some together!
Put her climaxing before yourself. Sometimes women cum really easy and sometimes they are like playing ‘God of War’ on PS4, unlocking all the puzzle pieces before the victory. Both can be fun, both bring connection and intimacy.
When you put her pleasure first, getting her there actually becomes a part of your pleasure. It becomes edging for you. As she is getting wetter, as she is moaning, as she is letting you know what to do, it’s all adding up to this moment where she releases… and then you get a first prize… which is your own climax! And, so we are clear, for most women, after you have the first orgasm the next one is easier. So, when you make her cum during the foreplay and then stick your throbbing hard cock in her, she will probably unravel around you into a hot orgasmic mess.
These skills are all ones you can learn, they are all ones that when you embrace and follow through on. You will gain the respect, loyalty, affirmation and the girls version of ‘locker room talk’... and wet panties with ease!
Which scenario is the one you want?
“So, last night, my guy made me meet god when I came… he did this trick with his fingers while his tongue was working me and it made my toes curl, gave me goosebumps all over my body, and made me beg for his cock… which he then gave to me, and I came all over again.”
Or
“I don’t know what the fuck he thinks he is doing when he is down there. I just want him to put his dick in me so that he can finish, and then I can go finish myself”
(Both of these were copied and pasted from an all women’s group.)
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