There is a lot of sexual shame that men carry around (not as much as women, but still there is a lot).
Due to the negativity that has been forced into the gay community throughout history, and the assigning of ‘weakness’ or ‘submissiveness’ to the sexual acts that this community takes part in, it has bled into the mindset we as a society have on ‘masculine sexuality’ in a heterosexual relationship as well. Both mindsets need a giant shift. There is absolutely nothing emasculating about sexual acts unless that is the consenualized purpose of them.
Sex has so many layers to it and we as humans have been gifted so many different ways to be able to have orgasmic & pleasurable sexual experiences.
Why does being a heterosexual masculine man mean that you are not allowed to take part in all the ways that others are able to?
All it is, is another way to come to deeply know and understand your own body, the body of your partner and how to bring extreme pleasure. There is nothing actually emasculating about it. It is embracing a very authentic, genuine and raw you.. And your partner is doing the same.
So if you are worried about being looked at differently and as less as a man, all it takes to not have that happen is coming to your own understanding that for a heterosexual man to be able to share that experience and be that much in touch with his body is actually a very a confident man in himself and in his partner.
It is being strong enough to move past a stigma that has been placed onto your own sexuality and step into all that the wonderful world of sexual pleasure has to offer.
All of this being said, there is also nothing wrong if you genuinely are not curious or wanting to have orgasms or sex play that involves your prostate, ass, etc. Each of us is unique. We all come with our own curiosities, with our own turn on/offs, fantasies and more! It is important for you to know that you are not abnormal for wanting to explore, just as much as you are not abnormal for not wanting to!
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